As a researcher and sexologist, I frequently encounter the myth that the clitoris and "squirting" (female ejaculation) are two entirely separate events. We have been taught that one is about "surface" pleasure and the other is about a "deep" internal button. However, my research reveals a much more integrated and fascinating reality.
Education as an Act of Liberation
I am a passionate believer in educating ourselves because silence creates physical barriers. When we lack the language for our anatomy, or when we believe our bodies function like simple machines, we miss out on the full landscape of pleasure.
In our study with over 1000 women, the data spoke volumes about the role of the clitoris in reaching the point of ejaculation:
- 14% ejaculate through clitoral stimulation only.
- 39% reach it through a combination of both clitoral and vaginal stimulation.
This confirms what we now call the CUV Complex—an interconnected network where the clitoris, the urethra, and the vaginal wall work together as a single functional unit.
Deepen Your Knowledge: My Top 3 Recommendations
To help you on your journey of exploration, these are my top three books to educate yourself on the clitoris:
'Cliteracy' by Laurie Mintz: If you want to become, well, cliterate (I love that word!), this is your starting point. Mintz bridges the 'orgasm gap' by combining cultural critique with the hard science of why the clitoris is to receive the attention it deserves.
'The Clitoral Truth' by Rebecca Chalker A true classic. Chalker doesn't just stop at the anatomy of the clitoris; she dives deep into the nature of sexual fluids and provides a compelling, research-backed case for why solo-sex is a foundational tool for mapping your own pleasure. (link: https://amzn.to/3PfSIe3)
'The Vagina Bible' by Dr. Jen Gunter The ultimate, evidence-based guide to anatomy. Dr. Gunter separates biological fact from decades of medical myths and marketing lies. If you want to understand the CUV-complex without the 'woo-woo,' this is your textbook. (link: https://amzn.to/4nmvJur)
And a bonus and the landscape of pleasure
'Come As You Are' by Emily Nagoski A masterpiece for understanding your inner lust. Nagoski explains the 'Brakes and Accelerators' of sexual arousal. It’s the key to the mental component of letting go. (Link: https://amzn.to/4dg9KRc) I can also recommend the workbook if you want to put theory into practice: The Come as You Are Workbook: A Practical Guide to the Science of Sex (Link: https://amzn.to/42nUcGn)
Enjoy!